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Thursday, July 14, 2005


Back in January I posted ‘Are you sexually cliterate’, and ‘Read my lips’. She Comes First

Recently I have been following Deanne’s alphabet sex over at
the d spot, so far she’s up to D.

When she got to B I was interested to see what C would be and I left a comment requesting that she go for the obvious for C, because too few guys get it right, yes you know what I’m talking about.

Well Deanne very kindly pointed me in the direction of
Hof’s guide to cunnilingus post, and I can highly recommend that all cunnilingus lovers whether male or female read Hof’s guide.

As I noted in a previous post the clitoris has eighteen parts all of which play a role in the production of pleasure, generally speaking I would say guys are only aware of four parts, and I’m being kind.

Also, the clitoral glans (the head) has approximately eight thousand nerve endings, twice as many as the head of the penis and more than any other part of the human body. Even more reason to be gentle and take your time and work slowly toward that ever so sensitive, sweet spot.

I don’t envy guys, I mean they don’t understand women; we’re just too complex, so how are they supposed to master the clitoris and her eighteen parts. And how are they to learn how to gently woo us in to oral pleasure when faced – literally – with such a sensitive bud.

And it’s not easy for women to give guidance because they don’t want the guy to feel he doesn’t know what he’s doing, but the facts are, when a guy first starts going out with a woman (apart from a few basics), he is not going to know what she likes, how she prefers her oral caress.

Communication is important, especially at the start of a new intimate relationship. Personally I feel comfortable with giving a partner guidance, tactfully verbalising my preferences, and this has always been met with enthusiasm.

However, many women are not comfortable with verbalising their sexual needs, and just as many men feel uncomfortable asking. This is where a wonderful book ‘
She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman’ by Ian Kerner proves to be invaluable. Men should read it. Women should read it and then leave it on the bedside table, or if you’re brazen then on the coffee table.

And for those of you who missed this the first time, I leave you with a quote from the book.

“It’s time to ‘think outside her box’. When it comes to the oral caress, every man should make a mantra of Rhett Butler’s infamous line to Scarlett O’Hara in Gone with the Wind: ‘You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how.”

posted by Opus at 12:51

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